Have you ever been tempted to say to some friend or relative, “Get your f’ing act together!”?
It is a tough love kind of thing to say. It is a rude wakeup call. There is an element of frustration involved in the motivation to say such a thing to a person we care about.
I’ve said it to others. It’s been said to me too. And, on occasion, I’ve said it to myself. Maybe you’ve told yourself the same thing a time or two in your own life.
That one statement, by itself, may be the wakeup call; but it is incomplete advice. How does one actually get their act together? How do you get from messing up your life to living a successful and fulfilling life? Allow me to offer some simple proven steps…
STEP ONE – Stop the blame game: The first step is always the hardest. It is always easy to blame something or someone else. It may be easy, but it pays no dividends. Blaming me or the economy for your problems may get you off the hook, but does not eliminate your problems.The only way out is to accept responsibility. It’s hard. In fact, it’s damn tough to say, “The reason my life is not working is because I am not thinking and doing the things I need to be thinking and doing in order to make it work. No one else, no outside event or circumstance is to blame for my results. Only me.
The good news is that once you get to the point where you are prepared to accept total responsibility for how things are in your life and how they will turn out tomorrow, freedom and empowerment are on the other side of that decision.
So, maybe life has dealt you a tough deal. Big deal. Get real. Many people have had it tougher than you and have their act together. What is your excuse?
STEP TWO – Rejoice: The second step is to stop cataloging your shortcomings, trials and tribulations and start counting your blessings. Get in the habit of starting of each day by expressing your gratitude for the multitude of blessings that you already have in your life.Once you start appreciating the abundance of wonderful abilities, opportunities and things that life presents to you in each and every moment, more and even more blessings will be showered upon you. Appreciate you. Appreciate life. Be grateful.
STEP THREE – Make a decision: To what purpose will you live your life? Stop coping with events and circumstances and start making a contribution. Stop pursuing ways to fill up your time with trivia and mindless entertainment that only distracts you from becoming the person you are capable of being; and start pursuing your heart’s desire. What do you pursue? Why?Once you know what is worthy of your pursuit, create a plan to follow; a game plan that gives real meaning and purpose to each act, each moment, each little thing you experience, each act of conscious creation you indulge in.
STEP FOUR – Get passionate: A life without passion is not a life; it is merely an existence. Want to feel alive every day? Get passionate about something. Passion does more than enable you to feel more alive. It gives you the power to effectuate the ideals you aspire to enacting. Emotional energy is the magic that brings mental energy to life.Stop existing on cruise control and drive passionately forward to a destiny of your own design.
STEP FIVE – Do your own brainwashing: Turn off your television and turn on your inner vision. Make no mistake; the endless mindless entertainment on the boob tube is intentionally designed to disempower you. Fill your head with stuff that empowers you rather than that which disempowers you.Read books that empower. Watch videos that empower. Interact with people that empower. Get out in nature. Spend some time with yourself. Affirm your sacredness, your creativity, your ability to contribute, your right to abundance. Pay attention to the ideas you are filling your mind with all day every day. Ask yourself, “how does this serve me?” If it doesn’t, junk it.
STEP SIX – Have some gumption: Stop standing in the shadows. Shine your light and speak your truth. You have something important and valuable to contribute. Don’t let fear and doubt deter you. Be courageous. Be bold. Be audacious. Find your passion. Design a plan to enact it and then persist until it is made manifest.You deserve success and personal fulfillment. Show the world you mean business.
STEP SEVEN – Recognize that this is the real deal: Your life is not a dress rehearsal. This is your opportunity. You will not have another chance to live this life and to make it count. Stop squandering it. Make each moment count. Do something worthwhile. What will be your legacy? Make a difference. Be a contribution. Stand up.
It is time now to get your act together and take it on the road.